Biblical Principles for Relationship

1.      What you see is in relationship is not what you get in marriage. What you get will come after wedding and your unrealistic expectations will become bitterness.

2.       Relationship and marital problems are symptoms of the real problem causes by old sinful nature.

3.      Relationship and marriage fails because people are failure as human beings.

4.      Relationship and marriage is not designed for happiness but for companionship, procreation and perpetuation of human race.

5.      The only source of happiness in any person or relationship is virtue (metabolized Bible doctrine in the soul) which is lacking in most believers.

6.      Changing your partner will not solve relationship or marital problems.

7.      The real problems in all relationship and marriage are people who destroy marriage (Marriage do not destroy people, people destroy marriage).

8.      Men should never force to change their wives according to what they wanted them to be.

9.      Women should never force to change their husbands according to what they wanted to be.

10.  Seeking counseling is a waste time for it can not help to solve relationship or marital problems. Every individual is a failure and has no authority to give direction to the life of others.

11.  Counseling is not ordained or commanded by God in the Bible since the Holy Spirit is the perfect counselor.

12.  Your personal experiences in life are not the pattern and standards for giving advices and counsel for others.

13.  Subjective approaches to relationship and marriage complicates the problem.

14.  The man who demands instead of commanding his authority over the wife shows his total defeat.

15.  Human solutions to relationship and marital problems are not permanent but it creates more problems.

16.  Relationship and marital problems should not be made public property.

17.  The only solution to relationship and marital problems is Bible doctrine in the souls.

18.  Your daily attitude toward Bible doctrine determines your happiness, success and failure in the relationship.

19.  The problem of relationship and marriage is not compatibility but application of Bible doctrine to human problems.

20.  Health, attractiveness and beauty cannot solve the real problem in relationship and marriage.

21.  Failure to apply virtue impersonal love and humility makes the relationship and marriage more complicated.

22.  Having children cannot solve the problems of bad relationship or marriages but complicate it further.

23.  For husband and wife to stay together in the same house in a rocky marriage for the sake of children will only manufacture more problems.

24.  The pastor or religious leader must have the humility not to get involve in solving the relationship or marital problems of others since he does not have all the facts.

25.  Relationship and marriage are private affairs between two individuals and no person should be allowed to engross in solving its problems.

26.  Relationship and marriage are not for perfect people who cannot make mistakes but for imperfect individuals with old sinful nature that are expert in manufacturing more problems.

27.  What is wrong in relationship or marriage is people, not the other party but you.

28.  Wives must learn to entertain themselves and not expect the husbands to provide entertainment for her.

29.  No husband can become good lover of a woman without becoming a good lover of self first of all.

30.  No husband can exercise authority over his wife without honor, virtue and integrity in his soul.

31.  No wife can respond to the authority of the husband without humility, virtue and integrity in her soul.

32.  Relationship and marital problems will continue to appear one after the other throughout the relationship or marriage and must be face by application of problem solving devices.

33.  The divine rule for marriage is not love but responsibility to fulfill the duty for the mate and family.

Why Relationship and Marriage Fail

1.      Relationship and marriage fails because human beings imperfect and have failed.

2.      Wrong or bad choose of mate – rejection of the right man –right woman principle.

3.      Disability to handle problems before the relationship and marriage means disability to solve problems during the relationship and marriage.

4.      Inconsistency perception, retention, recall and application of Bible doctrine results to lack of capacity to solve human problems with divine solutions.

5.      Taking bad advices from overly concern people around you like parents, relatives, friends who cannot solve their very own problems.

6.      Disloyalty on the side of one mate or both mates.

7.      No sense of responsibility on the side one mate or both mates.

8.      Mental immaturity on the side of one mate or both mates.

9.      Unrealistic expectations from attractions and magnetism for each others.

10.  Short period of time for knowing, observing, evaluating each other and exchanging beliefs or principles in life.

11.  Lacking doctrinal principles in life and sense of commitment on the side of one mate or both mates.

12.  Making the mate feel guilty for true or alleged neglect of the relationship.

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